Archive for February, 2009

When does it get too late?

The other day I met a friend who is very dear to me. Though I dont know him for a decade, the last 5 years that we’ve known each other, we’ve just seemed to hit it off …well…very well. It’s not that we talk everyday or meet every week ( he doesnt even stay here) but whenever we do, we seem to know what the other person is feeling. He is quite a jerk, even though i decide not to see it, but he is a complete sweetheart. Though he is not the quintessentially romantic type, he is extremely adorable at heart and Iv been trying to fix him up with a friend of mine for some time.

So last week, while we sat at home chatting and catching up, he mentioned that he “felt” he was in love. now he’s not the type to take anybody or anything seriously and always laughs at me when I tell him he should settle down. He said he always was in love with a childhood friend and he was about to get engaged to her about 2 years back ( which I knew but of course forgot!!!) but he didnt think he was ready then and had called it off. 2 years later, he regrets doing that and he wants to go back and tell her he loves her and wants her back. Incidentally, he is also leaving his hi-flying corporate job to pursue and study music and just follow his heart. He doesnt even know what she would say…how she would react…if she is seeing somebody   …anything. But as we sat chatting, somewhere deep down I knew this was going to be just right for him. I dont even know the girl and I dont know what will happen to their love story…but if a girl can make a man like him go weak in the knees, it must be something special. And while he is completely unsure of what he should do and say, he should say something- doesnt matter if it doesnt work, doesnt matter if she says no ( tho’ I know she wont), doesnt matter if it takes him another 2 years to marry her, he should tell her what he feels- because there might never be another chance.

And while I told him that, I thought of so many people I know- who got married to people they love but are not in love with. Sometimes just not telling somebody you love him/her at the right time might cause you a lot of pain for the rest of your life. While you might be happy in your world, accepting the past and what could have been and move on, somewhere deep down it hurts to remember what could have been, had you just said those three magic words at the right time. It does not take away anything just to say those words…instead it ca give you a world of happiness that you can never imagine.

Best of luck A!!!  Go and just say it- theres nothing thay you can lose!!!


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Platonic Infidelity

The other day we went to watch Luck by Chance- not to see the movie…but to see Farhan Akhtar of course!!! And while we sat there, two women, stuffing our faces with popcorn and drooling over FA, there appeared the Italian God, also known as Hrithik Roshan to blow us away. I didnt know who to look at, who was better, who was hotter…FA or HR. And I joked that this was the height of platonic infidelity…drool over one man and admire another. And while I sat there and watched the movie, this thought stuck in my head forever. 

Is there anything called platonic infidelity? Does it ever happen that your first love continues to be your first love, no matter how old you were and no matter how trivial it was? Is it possible to love someone without even knowing or even caring if you are loved in return? Is there anything called unrequited love? Is there any need to be loved always? Does reciprocation mean you will love a person more or can you continue to love without even thinking what you are getting in return?

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It’s sad…

It’s sad that I have to sit her and write this post today against a woman I looked up to and believed in- Barkha Dutt. I have always been interested in the media and Barkha Dutt was really my first introduction to the world of journalism. I believed that she had some mettle and the will to make a change, reporting stories that had value and did not indulge in stupid sensational jornalism. But that was aeons back.

And now as I sit here and type this in, I am angry, hurt and upset at her insensitivity and stupidity. This post should have come long back, right after the Mumbai massacre but I guess its Chandni and the Mad Momma who reminded me of the rage through their posts that I have actually sat down and decided to pen it down. Not only has she let all of us down but also proved to the world that she is too caught up in her own halo to take criticism and work on it.

As I sat and saw the massacre unfold on television over 60 ghastly hours, what struck me the most was how television journalism was really using this event to raise their TRPs instead of doing their job- reporting. Senior journalists like Barkha Dutt were shoving their cameras and mikes into people’s faces asking them how they felt about the carnage and what was happening. I am sure it was a tough job being there in the media of that horrible event and it must ahve taken a toll both physically and mentally, but to behave like insensitive blokes was a different ball game altogether. Yes, we understand your position…but we are disappointed at how you handled it. And we are disappointed that you cant take criticism. I was so disgusted with the reporting that in my sense of outrage I called up NDTV and wanted to speak to someone senior. Not only was my call transferred to atleast 10 people, somebody very rude came on line, asked me to mind my own business and hung up. WTF? We see your channel and thats why you get paid. If you cant handle people telling you what they feel, this is  not your cup of tea honey.

If you believe in the power of journalism, you should also realise that it also means a freedom of expression. So if you are free to shove your camera in people’s faces at their time of grief and sorrow, we are also free to express our disgust at the way it was done.

While all you great reporters out there have the right to express your opinions and report the way you want to, its really time that you learn to take criticism in the right way and live upto the tag of responsible journalism. Your job is to report for the people and if the people feel you are not doing the right thing, it is definitely your job to sit up, take notice and correct your actions…not pull up a blogger who has said what he wants to. Pick somebody your own size if you want to fight.  Really

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